The death of someone we love can be one of the most stressful and devastating events that we have in our lives.
At St. Helen’s we will do all that we can to enable you to mourn the loss of your loved one in the style you wish.
Here is a message from our Rector, Stephen Monk:
“Please be assured of my prayers and sympathy at the loss of your loved one. I will do all I can to help you through this difficult time. There is no right or wrong way to prepare a funeral service. Every funeral is different just as every person is different. I will always have time to talk to you and my only agenda is to make sure you have the time, space and type of service you want to remember your loved one. It doesn’t matter if you are a regular church goer or if you have rarely been to church, I am here as much or as little as you need to help you with the preparations and to enable you to say goodbye in your own way.”
We work closely with all our local funeral directors to make sure everything runs smoothly on the day. We will encourage you to ask any questions you may have, whether it is about music you can have in the service to whether there is a God who really cares.
If you need to talk further about your loss and grief after the funeral Stephen, our Rector, will arrange to see you, and any member of your family, to listen, pray and offer comfort. We pray regularly in our services for those who mourn but only mention you by name if you would like us to.
On the first Sunday in November we hold a service in church to remember all who have died during the year. For more details please contact the Rector or one of the churchwardens. Details are on the Contact Us page. A funeral is the time we say goodbye to our loved one on this earth. While it is a time of memories it can be had to grasp the reality of what has happened. The grief can still be entwined with the feelings of shock and disbelief, even for a loved one who was in the last years of a long life. The unexpected death of someone much younger brings another level of grief. The many things that have to be done, both legally and practically, can also feel overwhelming. The Bereavement Service is a time, and gives a quiet space, when a loved one can be honoured as well as grieved. All you have to do is come.
You may want to have your loved ones remains buried in the churchyard or their ashes interred in the Garden of Rest. Rev’d Stephen Monk will be able to explain how these options work and what sort of memorial you could consider, as permitted.
Here are some links to organisations who provide help for dealing with bereavement:
www.thelauracentrederby.org.uk – Tel 01332 408026 Bereaved parents who have lost a child and bereaved children and young people who have lost a parent or other significant person.